I say screw it. You shouldn't have to put up with that nonsense and foolishness. Find someone that will at least be a better friend to you.

oh trust... I definitely know how that is. I tend to get attached kind of quickly, so it's a big let down if I have to let friends go. I've gotten better at it, but only because I had to.

I agree don't make anymore effort.  Ironically its when you make no effort that she may be more interested.  I know this sound crazy and as Christians we are not meant to play games but I have seen this over and over again. 

@sparkletone1684 - 

@Umnenga - 

Thanks for the advice... and I think the next time I hear, "I really still want to be friends" or any kinda variation if that I am going to simply say, "we will see... wont we?" or something like that at least...

it may not be appropriate to say it... because it could work out. I would sure enough think it though. You don't wanna always assume the worst, because you could end up pleasantly surprised and make a new friend

Thank you for the encouragement, man. Always nice to hear those words.

@Umnenga - 

@sparkletone1684 - 

Well our group that she is in of friends was supposed to hang out this weekend but it didnt happen.. and last night I finally sent her one last msg through FB and e-mail, so as far as I am concerned it is up to her now but I just cant anymore.. This is what I wrote her:

"So, it has been like over a year and I have tried from time to time to see if we could have some similar friendship like we once did but it has always felt kinda one-sided... but hey, you have my info if you ever change your mind you can always feel free to let me know and/or also let me know how things are going with you and then I will definitely be excited to let ya know how things are going with me as well, otherwise I suppose I will see ya only if/when our group gets together if/when [our mutual friend] comes to town. Just know I will always keep you in my prayers as my sister in Christ and after everything I think I will miss the brief and good friendship we once had the most."

I think it is short and gets the point across.. I think on one hand it could make her sad but I really am tired of trying and want her to know how I feel after all this time, so if she wants to be friends fine... if not then I am done. Thanks for your comments guys, it was hard trying to think about calling or visiting her or even writing a letter so I think a very short and brief message worked the best.

Its a good letter.  I know this is not easy.

@Umnenga - 

Thanks.. and so true

I would just screw it and not talk to her anymore but that is me. Someone that is not interested isn't worth your time. If what your looking for is a helpmeet/soulmate/wife. If you want a friend then maybe that is a different story.